Nonviolent Communication in ENM/CNM

If you’re anything like me then you weren’t given the tools required to effectively communicate your feelings and your needs. In fact, I’d say that for some of us (mostly men) we’ve been taught to do the exact opposite. And that is to suppress and ignore our feelings and needs. So then how can we …

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Before You Triad, Try This

One of the most amazing things about consensual nonmonogamy is we can create relationships any way we like. One of the most popular relationship structures in CNM is a triad. While not always, these triads are often formed when a couple wants to “open up” their relationship and explore with another partner. This kind of …

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Jealousy. Good To See You Again, My Old Friend

Jealousy and I are old friends. We’ve known each other for most of my life, like ever since I can remember. We’re familiar with each other on a deep, soul moving level. We’ve been close at times and then there were long stretches, years, where we wouldn’t see each other. But, like all old friends, …

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do…

…actually, it fucking sucks. It can bring about feelings of deep sadness, shame, self doubt, distrust, anger, confusion, fear and hopelessness… But…there is hope! Because there is opportunity that comes with breaking up. So, what can break ups offer us? 💔 Well for starters they provide us with insight into the misalignment we experienced. We …

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A Conversation About Owning Your Shit

As some of you may know, I’m an avid music lover and vinyl collector.  As such, I’m a member of several online music and vinyl groups and communities.  The following conversation took place on a post in one of those groups on Facebook.  The OP had made a comment that as seen as elitist, arrogant …

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